I am NOT OP. Original post by u/left-humor7837 in r/offmychest
I 23(f) posted a thirst trap to teach my bf 28 (m) a lesson. - 15 October 2022
Ladies and guys, I’m young and I’m not very experienced so I wanna know if I did the right thing. My bf, whom I love so much, keeps liking thirst traps of one of his friends, who he did mention that she made a move on him in the past. I have always had this bad gut feeling about this specific friend of his, and he tried to reassure me that there’s nothing and she has a bf. This girl, let’s call her Lexi, has a lot of typical bikini posts on her insta (I am not slut shaming her in anyway) but I’m just trying to get my point through.
Lexi has never posted anything about being in a relationship or having a boyfriend of any sort (I know you’d think maybe she wants to keep it private? But she’s the type of girl who’ll even post what water she drinks). A month ago, he liked a pic of her that was almost nude, and I asked him if he’s okay with doing that. He said yeah she’s a friend, I thought this is okay. And I asked him okay would he mind if I posted the exact same picture and wore that? He said “NO WAY”, so I calmly explained how it doesn’t work like that.
Today, I had this strong urge to check again and yet again, there was a picture worse than before that he liked and not just that, many others too of Lexi. I didn’t ask him anything, and I posted a thirst trap myself with the same caption as that girl, a picture he strictly told me he wouldn’t allow me to post anywhere. He hasn’t seen it yet, but idk if I’m doing it right or wrong. My plan was for him to see it and prove my point. Help me out? Guys can you please help me out cause idk how guys think!! ?
Update:
He saw it. He’s calling me, texting me non stop. Should I take my time or answer it?
Update 2:
We talked. He fumed, like I expected. He said “I told you about that picture, why did you post it and what’s with the caption? What are you trying to hint here?” I replied with “wait you don’t like it? I thought it was a good caption, you seemed to like it on Lexi’s post tho” him: “THATS NOT THE SAME?” Me: “oh? Is it not? We talked about this and you clearly said you won’t do that again, but here we are” him: “take the picture down!” Me: “it sucks yeah? You can like naked friends of yours but I can’t post for my friends?”
Bottom line he’s upset. Things are heated atm. I don’t know if I messed things up by this but I’m sure he did understand me clearly. Should I wait for him to contact me again? Delete the picture?
Update 3:
I didn’t delete the picture. It’s still up. He’s trying to explain but just comes back to the lines of ‘it’s not the same’. He apologized and said I’ve made my point clear. He said he’s going to do his best to be better, and he’ll respect my boundaries. Well he did ask what has gotten into me because I normally wouldn’t react like this, I told him I said it in the past but you still went ahead and did the same, I was bound to blow up after this. After all, I’m a human too. Bottom line, he apologized. I still didn’t take down the post tho. Lesson learned, I’ll take it down now. Maybe in a while.
Most probably the last update:
To everyone who sent me all the supportive messages and kind words, thank you so much. I appreciate it. I know there were many people who didn’t support my actions, but I’ve reached a point in life where I’m done playing nice. I’ve been walked on my whole life. I wanted to stand up for myself and prove a point.
Did it work? I guess. Do I regret this? No. I know taking the high road would’ve been better but believe me, I’ve taken the high road so many times now that I was bound to fall a little. I know it was a petty move, but it proved my point. Will this relationship last? Idk time will tell, but this just made me more confident. And to the one’s asking me for the link to the post in my personal messages, I’m not gonna give a link ffs ??♀️
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To the boys who are personally dming me calling me a whore, and stuff like “insecure toxic gf”, I honestly don’t care so don’t bother dming me stuff like that. I don’t have to explain myself or my actions to you little boys :)
Ps, I know no one asked, but I am turning 24 in 6 days ! :) I’m looking forward to celebrating my birthday and it’ll be new beginnings for me.
Reminder - I am not the original poster.
